The Breakthrough Bear

The Breakthrough Bear

The Breakthrough Book

Possibilities for guiding yourself out of blame, anger, distrust or despondency into trust, hope, love and a rekindling of enthusiasm.

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Table of contents

Breakthrough options

Natural Breakthrough, 10 Step and the Clearing Sequence are your best options.

If you need more, you could consider, as inspired, other options (below).


Prelude

What we fear or resist, we create.  What we scratch for we dis-create.
If I am afraid of being abandoned, I will unconsciously create being abandoned. This is why we want to stand still, long enough to sense feelings, beliefs, or fears that we are denying, resisting, or pushing against.  

As I melt my resistance, or push against what I don’t want I begin to attract what I do want.

On the other hand, as I melt my desperation for other things (which is also a form of resistance), I open a path to this thing.
In other words, if my identity or happiness is too tied to my success, or to creating a love relationship then, all that scratching for, and fear about not having success and or love, will block my path to it.

So the first purpose of breakthrough work is to come to a goal, life decision or an an issues conversation absent of resistance and fear- peaceful, understanding, positive, open and hopeful.

The second goal of breakthrough work is as important; becoming aware of and breaking through limiting beliefs.  

Inside out / outside in
Breakthrough occurs in a synergistic result of inside out and outside in. It doesn’t matter where you start.

Example: If I am discouraged about a fight I had with my wife, I could…

a) look for myself as the cause (or other interpersonal breakthrough work). This would then inspire me to reach out to my wife and ask her how her day was and/or see what I can do for her, which would probably open up some positive vibes between us. I could conversely (outside in)…

b) do the dishes for her, take her out to dinner and enjoy some get to know you time. This outside-in action could make me feel closer to my wife- more connected with her, which could lead to a desire to experience more peace, less war, which could cause some inside-out prayer, meditation and perhaps “healing mirror” or other interpersonal breakthrough work.

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Natural Breakthrough vs. Supplemental

Natural Breakthrough

  • Prayer Ask God to soften and change your heart. Keep asking, every day, all day if necessary.  Because you will not be able to create peace if your heart is “at war” (as they say at the Arbinger Institute). If nothing else makes sense in the supplemental “Breakthrough” disciplines, remember that prayer is always the ultimate breakthrough.

  • Scriptures  Searching the word of God (whatever that is for you) raises us toward God’s level of thinking.  The closer we get to this infinite, spiritual realm, the less things bother us and the more able we are to create mutually beneficial solutions with loved ones.

  • Exercise  Exercise immediately floods your bloodstream with all kinds of happy substances like oxygen, and endorphins.  Exercises tends to fill your body and heart with goodness and gratitude.  Start walking or running while at the same time thanking God for anything you can think of.

  • Service   Serving someone instantly awakens your soul to the reality of another person and frees you from the prison of your self absorption, story, upset or panic. This is particularly effective when serving the person who you have a story about.

  • Time in Nature  Walk, breath, thank God for having a chance to be on this earth.

  • Time Letting some time go by can change the way you look at something.  Getting a good night sleep is a great combination with “time.” Stop stewing about your story, get some sleep, get up, pray intensely and if you’ve still got a story about something, then do some breakthrough work.

  • Gratitude - Counting your blessings.  And really count them, one by one.  List them. List as many as you can.  Keep going. It’s amazing how blessed you are.  With all those blessings it’s a little harder to find space for your stories or disappointments, isn’t it?

  • Music Try this one as an example, if you want to instantly be experiencing something different click on this: Bocelli and the Tab choir “The Lord’s Prayer”)  

  • Singing  Boyd Packer once said that the quickest way to get something unwanted out of your brain is to sing a Hymn

  • Time in Sacred and Spiritual Support  Church, Temples, prayer meetings etc.

  • A combination of any of the above


Supplemental Breakthrough- the focus of “The Breakthrough Book”

Most of the time breakthrough is not something that naturally occurs.  It is usually a path that you work toward until something opens up in you. This work can include natural and supplemental processes.

Truly, we can become so entrenched in our “stories” (negative interpretations and lack of trust) that any and all resources may become a necessary part of the hand of God pulling us up out of our inner mess.

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Instructions and Tips

1) Natural Breakthrough , 10 Step Breakthrough and the Clearing Sequence are your best options. If you need more, you could consider other options (below). Note that 10 Step Breakthrough and the Clearing Sequence have their own separate pages.

2) Listening vs. Reading
The Breakthrough Sound Files are for use while driving, walking, or laying in bed at night. The sound files are a greatly condensed version of this book.

3) Breakthrough works well with prayer
Sometimes your heart is too locked up to effectively work through these processes. At times like this, only God is able to soften your hard heart. This is why natural breakthrough activities like praying or reading scriptures are such a good prelude or supplement to breakthrough work.  

4) Often, the tools you’re working through (below) will not seem to apply to the issue you’re working on.  If you are humble and open you will discover interesting applications.  Be open and creative while having fun with this.

5) You may be inspired to approach this material differently each time you work on breakthrough.  Some issues will lead you toward one possibility, below, and other issues to other possibilities.  

6) Don’t be surprised if a sudden, helpful insight occurs to you sometime during your breakthrough work. This is one of the bi-products of melting your story and resistance.

7) Any of these sections can be done verbally, in your mind, or in writing (as you are inspired).  

8) Breakthrough Breathing (supporting breakthrough work)
Throughout your breakthrough work (during any and all steps below), gently and naturally breathe in and out through your nose, without a pause between your inhale and exhale like one continuous breath, with a slight emphasis on your exhale.  This is what some call “connected breath.”

9) About being “Complete”
“Complete”, meaning, you feel like you’ve received the desired value from this section and that any further pursuit of this section would probably deliver a diminishing return.  It is also means an intuitive feeling that there is additional value waiting in other sections.  

Don’t kid yourself.  We usually have much more work on something that we’re willing to see.  On the other hand, don’t limit yourself.  Breakthrough, especially when asking God to be your partner, can happen very quickly.  In either event, only you can determine when you’re complete with a section or with your current breakthrough subject line.    

10) Pick some “Breakthrough Subject Lines” before Breakthrough work i.e. things I’m resisting, or not wanting, inner conditions I don’t like. Examples: I don’t like myself, my upset about my husband’s drinking, fear of dating, resistance to being single, wanting to leave my wife, my current physical weight (or physical shape), my feelings of loneliness or rejection, my discouragement, jealousy, unforgiveness, lack of energy, resistance to (push against, unhappiness with) my current job, bank statement, home, car etc. Click here for more options.

11) The focus of breakthrough work
Breakthrough isn’t just about dismantling your inner experience (i.e. anger) or your outer behavior (i.e. procrastination). Breakthrough is only effective as you work on your subject line (inner or outer) and your resistance to this inner or outer experience. Melting our resistance to what we would like to change is the most power aspect of creating the change.

12) Ratings: It can be helpful to give a number rating to the issue or inner condition at the time you start breakthrough work. And then at the end of your work for the day, or for that month etc. from 0 to 10.  “10” means “If I can’t change what I’m feeling about this, I will implode, or stop breathing.”  “0” means “I have zero resistance or upset regarding this subject line.  I’m at peace and am experiencing overall increased energy.”

Notice

Just notice!  “Hey, I think I’ve got a story about this.”  Don’t judge yourself for it. Don’t even judge the story.  Just notice! Of course, it hurts to be in your story. But let this be the pain of sorrow, not self condemnation.  You have withdrawn from love. That hurts. That’s a natural, beautiful sorrow vs. the self imposed shame of “What’s wrong with me?!  Why do I always have to be in a story about everything?!”

Note “Story”, in this document, refers to an inner experience of distrust.

  • Victim story I have to endure pain of your misbehavior

  • Villain story You truly are the bad guy, not me

  • Helpless story I’m stuck.  I cant do about any of this

  • Redemption You need to go with my plan so that I’ll feel better about myself

  • General distrust This universe and everyone in it is clearly against me

Just noticing when you are in any of these stories can be healing and can immediately begin dismantling your story.

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Faith and Focus

Moving closer to happiness is determined almost solely by your willingness to see and to move toward what you feel could be your highest contributions to this world.  These contributions could be as a homemaker, a professional athlete, as the most valuable member of your workforce you can be, as a full supporter of your local church, as a Father, a neighbor or husband.

Therefore, breaking through whatever doldrums you’re in can happen very quickly by simply returning to your vision- your goals and visions and the steps lead to them.

Consider Faith, Focus and Vision as a first step in breakthrough.  If this isn’t speaking to you, skip this section and go to the next (The same thing applies to each aspect of breakthrough).

  1. Say it.  “I am _____”  and/or “I will _____.”

  2. See it. What does it look like?  Who’s there? See a symbol or scene representing this.

  3. Be present to it.

  4. Optional: Sorrow for blocking it.

  5. Return to the vision.

  6. Identify and picture supporting actions (actions that lead to the vision).

  7. Thank God for everything just as it is, and for what is emerging, for the strength He is giving you to accomplish what you are focusing on.

  8. List main actions.

  9. Break down actions into smaller actions.

  10. Put action in calendar and/or in daily Mastery Habits.   


Action
is usually what removes resistance and doubt. Resistance and doubt are some of the strands that weave your experience of distrust together.

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Worse case scenario

This is an age old process passed on by our grandmothers.  It’s very effective:

a) Identify what you’re worried about.  Get it all out from everywhere it’s hiding.  That’s what’s eating you up - worries hiding in the background and shadows.  It is what’s unclear and unspoken that causes anxiety.

Get some paper out and say it!  i.e. “I’m worried I won’t be able to pay my bills”, “I’m worried no one will like me at my new job,” “I’m worried I will die alone” etc.

b) Whatever it is you’re worried about, just go to the worst case scenario i.e. you lose the house, everyone hates you, you die alone etc. (See note 1 below)

c) Ask yourself “Could I live with that?”  
If you’ll be still for a moment and have a little prayer in your heart, you’ll hear the answer.

“Of course you can!”  You may not like it, but you will go on, in this life or the next.  Your journey will never end, neither will the love you can give, neither will the glory of God ever dry up in your heart and soul. In life or death, just tell yourself the truth.

Example:  “What if my husband or I lose our job?”

  • We may not be able to pay our mortgage.

  • We could be evicted

  • We’d have to live in a motorhome, or

  • We’d have to live with Aunt Millie

Based on the examples above, you could survive your husband losing his job, and even thrive!

Suddenly you emerge from the anxious abyss of the unknown (the “what if?”) to the clear possibility of “I could live with that.” Now, with the extra energy and calm you’ve created you can get moving toward solutions that will keep you from losing your home.


Notes:
1. Read Ecclesiastes for more on this. Solomon will convince you that none of it matters anyway - that in the final analysis, service to others is all that means anything)



If you’re feeling complete with your breakthrough work, stop here. Congratulations! If not, consider redoing this section, returning to a previous section, or going on to a new section for another layer of breakthrough work.

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Breakthrough questions

These are also found in the “Walk List” - a special assortment of breakthrough questions when you are at the tipping point from sane to insane.

a) “What kind of story am I telling myself about this?”
("if she loved me she wouldn't do that", "I not important to him" ).  Is what I’m telling myself true? (Listen). “What is the truth?”

b) To what degree am I willing to be in touch with what I really need from ___________ (significant other’s name) and to how threatened I feel when we seem disconnected from each other? (THIS is always the real issue)

To answer this, talk directly to this person (in your mind), addressing them by name and completing this sentence:   “___________ (his or her first name), what I really need from you is______.” Repeat the sentence again: “What I need from you, so much is________.”

c) To what degree am I willing to be in touch with the fear I hold about _______________ not coming through for me-  not giving me what I need? What do I feel will happen to me, or inside of me if _____________ doesn’t ______________________ (whatever you want him or her to do or to stop doing).

d) To what degree am I wanting something from ___________ that he or she is unable or unwilling to give?  
To what degree am I open to the possibility that I am trying to heal a spiritual wound with a relationship balm?  To what degree am I willing to give up my fit, quiet my mind and be drawn into the presence of the God- allowing Him (through the power of the atonement) to heal my heart?   

e) What am I not seeing about this event? or What am I not seeing about who this person is and/or how he or she feels and why?

f)
 How can I be the solution?  
Instead of living in blame, looking to ___________ as the cause and as holding the keys for the cure, how can I cure this?  Get present with how compelling your hallucination is that this is about him or her.  Pray to be free of this and to have God open your heart to a view of yourself as the 100% cause, and possible solution in everything you’re experiencing and will experience in your relationships.  With this as a possibility, what are some ways you can be the solution?)

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I did that

A Prelude to the Healing Mirror and Self Betrayal Turn-Around” and Looking for Your Self as the Cause

Accountability occurs in hundreds of layers.  Even the seemingly cleanest home, if inspected closely, reveals this amazing phenomena. Objectifying, blame and victim are hiding in the closets, the attic, all over the place. They are hiding on you!  

Some time ago, my boy Geoffrey was walking through a lobby to one of our meetings.  He walked by a coffee table and accidently stepped on a little creamer that someone had dropped. This created an instant mess.  

Rather than saying “why aren’t people more careful?”, he said to himself “I did that” and got some towels to clean it up.  He explained later, as he reveled in the afterglow, that this one simple moment struck him as the way he wanted to live his life.

Consider the power and freedom in this question “how did I do this?” or, as the apostles put it, “Lord is it I?”  Consider the power and freedom of finding as many ways as you can that in fact you did do it.  

When we fully address the “beam in our own eye”, we will be rid of our upset, story and reaction to the speck of dust in our loved one’s eye.

Then we will be able to ask the centering questions like “What am I willing to do?” And then to be able to receive inspiration on the answers.


Healing Mirror

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The "Healing Mirror” is especially effective for interpersonal issues.

We are hesitant to look at our own personal weaknesses because we equate our weaknesses or negative characteristics as the evidence that we are not lovable.  Looking at this “evidence” makes us afraid that we will not be loved. So we do not look.

Thankfully, God often gives us a wonderful gift: Whenever we are upset or irritated by someone else, God is showing us a pathway to something in ourselves that needs our attention - a place where we feel unforgiven, without hope, ashamed or cut off.

The secret of this exercise however, has to do with maintaining your focus on someone else. Deliberately look out, instead of in. Your defense system will often not allow you to accurately look within.  But it will allow you to look out, with stunningly clear vision. Let’s do it. Consider what bothers you and find behind this mirror, the hidden treasure of God’s love!

A) Think of a behavior or characteristic that upsets you in someone else.

B) Ask: “What does this person want, or what is it that this person is afraid of that would cause him or her to __________?” (whatever this behavior is).

C) Ask: “What does this person want, or what is it that he or she might be afraid of that would make him want or be afraid of ___________ (whatever you mentioned above)”.

[Notes: Keep going down the path until the intersection between this person’s fears and desires and your fears and desire(s) appears, e.g., “Do I ever want this or am I ever afraid of this?  Is what this person feels or wants or fears something I can relate to?  How much? Notice that how you seek to accomplish or avoid something may be different from the person you’re focusing on.  Look for the commonality. Look for the beam in your own eye. Carefully dig around for how you do what so and so does, or how you also want what so and so wants, and how you try to accomplish the same thing that so and so is trying to accomplish.  

Note also that what someone is afraid of exists only in the context of something they
want. [e.g: If I’m afraid of rejection, what I truly want is to feel accepted.]

Also note that there may several intersections between what this person wants or is afraid of and what you want or are afraid of. Play around with this for a while.  See what you can come up with.


Common Intersections
(Common ways this person is a reflection).
He or she...

  • is trying to piece together a sense of security in the midst of personal doubt and insecurity.

  • feels alone or disconnected.

  • doesn’t feel like he compares very well to others

  • feels like she’s not enough.

  • doesn’t trust other people’s love.

  • doubts that he has much to offer.

  • wants to feel loved, or important, noticed or valuable.

D) Once you’ve got a feeling for what you want or are afraid of intersects with what this person wants or is afraid of, you could offer a prayer that’s anything along this line:

Heavenly Father: I see a part of me in _________. I know that you see this in me- this fear of _________ or this tendency to _______ or desire for________. You see it and yet you still love me.  Help me not to hide this part of me from you anymore.
  Please
heal this part of me. Please forgive me & heal me from ________ (describe the fear, doubt or tendency that is behind the person’s behavior).  
  Please forgive me for pointing my own stuff at ________ (the person you’re bugged at). Thank you for showing me, in the mirror, my
own doubt and self betrayal. Thank you for lifting me from my judgment, strengthening me to change, and bringing me home to you.”



If you’re feeling complete with your breakthrough work, stop here. Congratulations! If not, consider redoing this section, returning to a previous section, or going on to a new section for another layer of work. Get present with how much upset or “resistance” you are still experiencing before going on. You may want to give it a number, from 1 to 10.

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betrayal turn-around

For interpersonal issues

“How I am doing to you what I feel you are you doing to me?”

You wouldn’t be so upset with your partner’s behavior if it wasn’t something you are also doing.  

Go through the options below (a - e) using every them as sentence starters in your search for the ways you've betrayed or let down your loved one. Some will resonate.  Some won’t. Go with your instincts, even if at first, none of these seem to fit. Each time you see the words, “consider the following” is another chance to turn this around into seeing how you are doing what you feel the other person is doing to you.

The deeper you go with your accounting, the less upset and story you will experience.  Working with this can produce a miracle in your heart.


a) ______ (person’s name) is not coming through for me.

Consider the following: I am not coming through for ______ i.e. (How is this true?)


b)
______ is blaming me.

Consider the following: I am blaming ______ i.e. (How is this true?)


c)
______ is trying to control or manipulate me (or someone else)

Consider the following: I am being controlling or manipulative in my relationship with this person or in this situation.” (How is this true?)


d)
______ is making me wrong.

Consider the following: I am making ____ wrong. (How is this true?)


e)
______ is invalidating me (or not understanding me or not appreciating me).  

Consider the following: I am invalidating _____ (How is this true?)


f)
______ is abandoning me or abusing me (or “has abandoned or abused me”)

Consider the following:I am abandoning (or abusing) ________ (How is this true?)


For more breakthrough along this line click to “Clearing Sequence”


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Ho’oponopono

Another version of “Betrayal Turn-Around” that sort of envelopes “Reframing” is the “Ho’oponopono” (an ancient Hawaiian ritual), which is as follows:

See the person in your mind’s eye and say:

[Person’s name].
I’m Sorry.
Please Forgive Me.
I forgive you.
Thank You.
I love you.

The key to this is to be fully present to these words, repeating the phrases as many times as you feel to.



“Ho’oponopono” for Self-Defeating Traits & Disease
A helpful variation of the above can be used for self-defeating behaviors (or traits) and physical ailment or disease.

Interestingly, both self-defeating behaviors or negative character traits and illness are somewhat of a separate, false aspect of our divine, vibrant and whole nature (a child of God).

Adverse traits or conditions can be an unconscious attempt to protect yourself from any more harm.  It’s as if part of you is saying “She’s been hurt enough- better to shut her down completely (even if it means leading her out of of this life) than to incur any more emotional pain.”

That’s probably not a program you’re wanting to support (at least consciously).  So it’s time for a conversation with this part of you.

Step 1) Identify a self defeating behavior or adverse physical condition i.e. defensiveness, pride, self-importance, jealousy, lust, anger etc. or thyroid issues, stomach or kidney issues, diabetes, cancer etc.

Step 2) In metaphysical sense (sort of a 6th sense moment), get eye to eye with this part of you.  Look right into this part of you and say:

I know it hurts.
I understand what you’re trying to do.
You’re trying to protect me.
But it’s not working out very well for me.
I’m sorry I’ve lead you here.
I love you.
Thank you.
I release you into the light and love of our Heavenly Father.


If you’re feeling complete with your breakthrough work, stop here. Congratulations! If not, consider redoing this section, returning to a previous section, or going on to a new section for another layer of work. Get present with how much upset or “resistance” you are still experiencing before going on. You may want to give it a number, from 1 to 10.

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Grace

Inspired by the book Connie Rae Andreas, “Core Transformation”


Consider first, what is left of your inner experience (subject line) or what you’re working through, from 1 to 10 (10 being the greatest).  Give it a number. Giving something a number loosens it from within you. \
             

a) Underneath ____________________ (your upset, limiting belief or negative tendency), there is something you want. What is it?  Answer as briefly, spontaneously and as honestly as you can.

Answer: ________________________________________________

If you could experience ____________________________ (the answer you gave above), what would you want even more? What’s underneath that?-  or What’s even more important to you?

Answer: ________________________________________________

If you could fully experience ____________________________ (the answer you gave above), what would you want even more?

Answer: ________________________________________________


[Keep going, allowing yourself to naturally flow into the obvious opposite of what you've been experiencing: “hope, forgiveness, change of heart, peace, infinite love, wholeness, patience, confidence in God’s love and in my unchanging worth, pure joy based on nothing but the coming forth of my own true, loving, faithful, compassionate self,” etc.]

b) Please answer the following question(s) with respect to all the things you listed above. Hint: The correct answer, is “yes”.

Is ______________ (one of the things you listed in above) possible?    

Is ______________ (one of the things you listed in above) possible?    

Is ______________ (one of the things you listed in above) possible?    


c) Would you be open to the possibility that your Heavenly Father is the bridge between what you've been experiencing and what you yearn for - and that if you will release the struggle and stand still, that you could fully experience __________________________________ (the desired reality listed above).


d) Would you be willing, beginning now, to let go of ______________ (whatever is left of the inner experience, tendency or belief you’ve been working on) and your resistance to it, and to instead, completely experience _______________________ (the final desire listed above, along with all of the behaviors that line up with it)?


Please then, stand directly in _____________________ (the final desire listed above).  

In every part of you - down to your toes, through your spirit, back through all time, into the future, into all eternity, in every feeling and in every space of your being will you now, instead of struggling for, will you simply and fully experience __________ (the final desire listed above)?

Will you receive it all the way to 10? (or “turn up this experience to 10”?)

Now, leaving this human realm, will you receive it through the infinite power of God, to infinity?

Note: This also means receiving the grace to create and receive the experience you want (because make no mistake, you cause your world!)


If you’re feeling complete with your breakthrough work, stop here. Congratulations! If not, consider redoing this section, returning to a previous section, or going on to a new section for another layer of work. Get present with how much upset or “resistance” you are still experiencing before going on. You may want to give it a number, from 1 to 10.

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Boundaries

So much of our upset and built up story results from our unwillingness to ask and answer the centering questions.  Resolve from now on that being there for your loved one will sometimes mean giving up on getting his or her approval.

1) What are you willing to do about this issue?  or, what can he or she expect from you if he or she continues to _________ or fails to _______.

Take some time to do some inspired writing.  “I’m willing to _________”

2) What are you no longer willing to do (or endure), perhaps to any degree whatsoever.

Take a moment for some inspired writing.  “I’m not willing to _________”

3) in looking more closely at the above 2 questions, what steps (if this issue comes up again) do you really think will be in everyone’s best interest, including yourself?

“What I feel what be best for everyone is ____________”


Note: In most instances, you want to think in terms of incremental steps toward a final drop off point i.e. “If it happens again please know that I will ________.” “The way back to my heart at that point will be _____”  “If it happens after that, I’m going to need ________ etc.” ).


4) As you pursue the above questions or in your general search for inspiration, ask yourself: “What am not seeing?”

You may even want to ask God to help you in what we call a “guided tour” (a visit into someone else’s soul).  What am I not seeing about how he or she feels?  What am I not seeing about why I am responding like this?   “Heavenly Father, what is it I’m not seeing, or what is it you want me know?”  

What is God telling you right now?  Sometimes, it just takes asking and then putting your pen to paper, or your fingers to the keyboard.

“I’ not seeing that ___________”


5) Finally, or first, is your direction question: “What do I want?”
This gives a general guidance with respect to the other 4 questions.

What is it you would like to see happen, in the long view?  What is it you really want?

Now start at question 1 again (at the top of this section, “Boundaries”).

Soon you will be ready for a “Boundary Conversation” where you can let someone know what works for you too, what perhaps could work for both of you, what you’re uncomfortable with, what you’re unwilling to do and what actions could mend this situation, what you would be willing to do etc.


If you’re feeling complete with your breakthrough work, stop here. Congratulations! If not, consider redoing this section, returning to a previous section, or going on to a new section for another layer of work. Get present with how much upset or “resistance” you are still experiencing before going on. You may want to give it a number, from 1 to 10.

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Revisit every Boundaryless moment

…or, cleaning your Karma

“Karma” is defined as “the sum of a person's actions in ...previous states of existence, viewed as deciding their fate in future existences.”  

The more we can go back and clear out resistance, enmity or unconsciousness from our “previous states of existence” (former relationships), the greater the chance that we will create a different future.

So how does this look?

1) Go back in time and take a hard look at a hard and/or failed relationship.

2) Make a list of incidents or times in which you were not getting the lesson that was in front of you: when you did not live in your boundaries, when you aggressively acted out your distrust, when you stonewalled your partner, or didn’t validate his or her feelings- when you failed to cheerlead or encourage him or her (things covered in the breakthrough pieces above).

3) Revisit what you were feeling or how you were showing up in each of these incidents or times.  

Examples:

  • The time I didn’t speak to him for 3 days.

  • Not wanting to tell her what I needed, or what I felt.

  • My tendency I had to be a victim and complain to my friends.

  • The sense of powerlessness I felt that lead to my aggressiveness and criticism etc.

  • The tendency I had to be controlling.

4) Each of these above, for example “the time I didn’t speak to him…” could be a subject line for a breakthrough. You could do any and every aspect of breakthrough taught above with this as the subject line.


Recently, one of our participants did 10 of these breakthroughs in one weekend (“Cleaning your Karma”).  She reported feeling on a greater high, with a clearer future than she had ever felt before.


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oposite action

Do something that supports the state of mind you desire.

  • If you’re experiencing limited thinking, start a new business.

  • If you’re struggling to forgive, pray for and serve this person.

  • If you’re afraid of heights, go bungee jumping.

  • If you’re single and afraid of being hurt, get online.

  • If you’re married & afraid of being hurt, do a camping trip with spouse.

If you’re feeling complete with your breakthrough work, stop here. Congratulations! If not, consider redoing this section, returning to a previous section, or going on to a new section for another layer of work. Get present with how much upset or “resistance” you are still experiencing before going on. You may want to give it a number, from 1 to 10.

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service, the ultimate oposite action

Even when he was being crucified, He was so consumed with trust, and love and service that he connected possibility love; “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.”

If you are stuck in your conclusion that _____________ doesn’t love you, or care about you (wife, child, boss etc.), consider this:  

It isn't about not trusting their love that’s got you shaken up.  It's about being disconnected from your own love (your love for him or her).

Here’s how it goes:

When I serve you, I connect with my love for you.
When I connect with my love for you my heart tends to open and  I connect with your love for me.

Action: Think of someone in your life right now, who’s love you doubt

See yourself serving.  Make it real. Write down different ways you could serve this person.

Decide what you will do.

Record your action in your workbook or journal.

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ARP

Addiction Recovery, or “12 Step”      

The shame and guilt we inherited from our parents- that we compounded through our own self-betrayal requires 2 things to heal:

1) A complete, 100%, pure, sincere acknowledgement of the negative, destructive choices we’ve made.

2)
A complete, 100% sincere determination to turn away from our destructiveness and turn into the love, trust and hope God is willing to fully plant in our hearts.

ARP (or at least a complete adherence to its principles) is the most comprehensive path to this end.  The more you walk this path, the less you will see everyone and everything as against you. The more you turn from your own self betrayal and self abandonment, the less you will see others as betraying and abandoning you.  

If you’re feeling complete with your breakthrough work, stop here. Congratulations! If not, consider redoing this section, returning to a previous section, or going on to a new section for another layer of work. Get present with how much upset or “resistance” you are still experiencing before going on. You may want to give it a number, from 1 to 10.

Click here to go to ARP recordings, videos and manual.


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