• I’ve been blaming you for anything and everything.

  • I have been self absorbed  /  I’ve taken you for granted.

  • I have been insensitive  /  I have been impatient

  • I have been careless   /   I have been abusive.

  • I failed to share my hurt feelings and emotionally withdrew.

  • I’ve been pointing my frustrations, fears and unhappiness at you.

  • I failed to invite you and to and inspire you to meet my needs.

  • I allowed myself to continue to feel uncomfortable with _______.

  • In my lack of healthy boundaries, I have built up resentment.

  • I’ve wanted your approval more than I wanted my own self respect.

  • I've not been appreciative for you and what you do.  

  • I spoke to my disappointments, not the possibilities.

  • I have been committed to my story that you have wronged me.

  • I didn’t focus enough on caring for your needs or making you happy.

  • I’ve wanted you to see the error of your ways and to apologize to me.

  • I haven’t asked clearly and/or consistently for what I need

  • I haven’t been encouraging as you’ve tried to give me what I need.

  • Through my lack of boundaries, I’ve supported your abuse.

  • I have viewed you as the source of my feelings of “not-enough”.

  • I’m causing people to be who they are by my labels, judgements & stories about them.