"Then each night, on your knees, …pull your sweetheart close to you, and pray together.  And as you pray, make sure you mention how much you love your spouse."   

He went on to say, "If you're not feeling like praying, or even worse, if you're tempted to not pray, then you're going to want to stay up all night if you need to, until you can pray together and thank the Lord for the love you have for him or her."    

A tip.  You could try apologizing first.  You'll feel it then. 

Note: Of course this is only one way of letting your spouse know you love her in a meaningful way.  I believe it’s a great option. There are other opportunities to express love and gratitude, i.e. a special text, or a note, or just grabbing him or her and saying "I love you."  But what I love about this advice is that if you have missed every other opportunity throughout the day, you have this opportunity to draw closer in love and appreciation.

Perhaps even better, if you're not feeling like praying together, it is the perfect indication that you've gone off the path. 

The catalyst of unconsciousness - (Turn on the flood lights)
Think of it like this: You're going to hit some bumps in the road, and life together will not feel very good.  But the question isn’t as much “what’s going on in your relationship”, as much as it is, who have you inadvertently invited into your marriage.   

In my mind, one of the most powerful movies of our time is a “B” film called “War Room.”  It is critical to acknowledge the dark catalyst of unconsciousness.  He has a name: Satan.  He and his people (all unseen) are like sharks, waiting for anything to be dropped into the water.  When you drop a little bit of unconsciousness or controlment, blame or reactivity in the water, it’s a feeding frenzy for these little dark sharks. You don’t want that.

So it’s not just your own insanity you’re dealing with, it’s his (Satan’s) the most insane person in the history of this universe. Humble, diligent, sincere couple prayer is like setting up flood lights that can dispel any darkness you may have inadvertently collected.

Make it a habit!
I promise you that if you’ll get into the habit of praying together, every day, you will grow together, and serve together, and love together in at a whole new level.

Until you can totally get in the habit of couple prayer, consider listing it in your Habit Tracker.

Talk about this with each other. See what you each feel. Kick it off tonight!