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Agreement 2 - Unconditional TrusT

Important note: There is a lot to consider in agreement 2, 3 and 4. Pace yourself in your study of this.  Be inspired.   Do what feels best for you, even if it is just coming to the meetings, or listening afterwards. 

To trust or not trust

From 0 to 2 years old we decide whether to trust or not trust. To some extent most of us decided to not trust. Our distrust keeps us from seeing positive possibilities and from effectively navigating through interpersonal issues.  We cannot even see the person we have an issue with.  We only see our story of distrust about this person.

But we can breakthrough from our distrust, to trust, and begin to see positive possibilities in every situation and in every relationship. 

This kind of unconditional trust is different from earned trust.  The private information you share with a friend, the level of responsibility you extend to an employee, the level of involvement you enjoy or privileges you extend with a loved one are based on how much trust this person has earned.    

Unconditional trust simply means that you are looking for reasons to trust, vs. reasons to distrust. You are open to positive possibilities. You are open to the possibility of love. Click here for Agreement 2 Blog "Seeing Blue"



1) Increase your Breakthrough Disciplines this week

What you’ve been practicing so far
•Just Notice
•Worse Case Scenario

What we suggest you also practice (going forward)
•Compassion Process from Avatar
•Healing Mirror

Practical Application:
Your conversation is either about the dot (the content), or your story about the dot (your doubts, your distrust, your upset). Notice when you are in your story.

Another natural application: When talking to someone, if you find yourself approaching any level of conflict or upset, interrupt yourself!  Explain to this person - "Excuse me.  I'm sorry.  I've been taking a class lately about these very kinds of moments.  I think that right now I am currently what they describe as 'being in my story.'   So would you excuse me?  I'm going to go do what we call "breakthrough work" and/or "Let's come back to this once I've dropped my story.  In the meantime, what else is going on with you?" (i.e. return to chit chat).


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Additional Homework Opportunities:

2) Pick other beginners level Breakthrough Disciplines from the
Breakthrough Book i.e.

3) Suggested Reading:  
Bonds that Make Us Free  by Terry Warner and Crucial Conversations 

Agreement 2 Premier image, from “Back to the Future”
Back to the Future (Bad sound.  Turn up volume as high as you can)
What will you see?  What will be real for you?  


It's all true (the love, the hate, the goodness and the darkness), but what will you decide is real?

Unconditional trust is a constant prayer to God that He will give us a new heart- a heart willing to see the real and loving self trying to emerge in the people we love.  

But only you can decide what you see.  Only you can decide what's real.

Above is a story about two people choosing two different realities (red and blue). The crazed gunman experienced the man working in the convenience store as an enemy (though he was not). The man working at the convenience store, even after being shot, experienced the gunman as just temporarily confused.  The gunman chose to see only his own story.  The man working in the store chose to see the possibility of someone, in the end, coming through for the human race.