Agreement 5 - Heal the Real Wounds
Agreement 5- Extra Possible Actions - Choose as inspired
Service ties as the number 1 substance of emotional and spiritual healing. In service, we transcend our experience of victim, blame and heartache and connect with our true, glorious, loving, real selves. If the above doesn’t apply to you, ask Heavenly Father and/or your spouse or local leader in your neighborhood what you could do for someone. (See “Lift” below)
Accountability, apology and reconciliation are essential pieces of emotional and spiritual healing. Ask God who would be a good person to apologize to this week, and what to apologize for. Please be careful. Do not rush into an apology on a deep or touchy issue without proper guidance (see the 12 step materials on this, below).
Mega presence Taking the idea of presence even further, spend at 5 to 10 minutes of simple exchange each week (while walking, praying, driving, getting ready for work, or just in pure meditation. You choose.)
Launch your involvement in the “Addiction Recovery” materials. The LDS church’s material is FREE and so good. Note: The strength of this material is answering the questions in writing. 12-Step - Soft copy. This action appears in “Agreement 9” action also because of it’s extreme relevance to in both agreements (“Healing the Real Wounds” and “100% Accountability”).
The first step in changing our feelings (part of healing the real wounds) is to feel our feelings. Our feelings our like waves, that if we will ride, will land us to resolution, peace and breakthrough.
One of our greatest wounds is caused from falling into a fog about who we really are. It hurts to believe that we are worthless or that our life is void of support and love (even if much of this support and love is hidden from our natural eyes).
Much of Healing the Real Wounds has to do with stopping for a moment and asking, "Who am I, really?" See Getting to Know You Exercises.
To some degree, each of us has faced or will face the pain of rejection. Healing the real wounds will often include facing these kinds of feelings and whatever else we’ve swept under the carpet. Moving our feelings out from under the carpet and exposing them to the sun (and to The “Son”)- to light of God’s love and to the fresh air of our own acceptance can begin some deep healing.
Service is often what our heart is calling out for the most. Service is how I discover how valuable, loving and infinite I really am. This is so healing.
Along this line, consider this article: Self Worth in a "Selfie" World
The way you do one thing is the way you tend to do everything. Get your mind like water. Get your finances like water, pure, peaceful, under control. Go to mint.com or everydollar.com
Paying attention to the joy in this moment is healing. What you want is not in the future. It's right now. It's the little (or big) person who needs your attention right now- who needs a text, or a call or some encouragement. It's someone who needs your cheer-leading or even just a smile or a hug. Paying complete attention to these little moments of joy and service is the path that leads to our hearts being healed- it is the path that leads to God.
Sometimes you just need a good laugh. Learning to not take life so seriously is something your heart is yearning for.
“John, your presentation on agreement 5 was ..profound. Maybe I’m just finally starting to “get it” on a deeper level, but it was like seeing the lights go on in so many areas of my life.
I can see how I’ve lived from all those wounded places, how I was taught to do so, and how I’ve passed that on. Even better, I can see how I’m doing this still. It’s been one BIG ‘AHA’ moment for me for the past several days as I’m seeing it more and more.
I’m finally beginning to let go of really old, long-standing hurt and replacing it with hope. Thank you!””